We all experience several life transitions throughout our lives. What are life transitions? They are periods in life involving lots of change to your lifestyle. We experience them as children when we change grades and the requirements of the class are different. We go through them for school, careers, buying and selling homes, relationship beginning and endings, births and deaths and so on. Every event that requires you to change your lifestyle around is considered a life transition. Not everyone will experience all of them and many will not experience them the same way as we are all different people and handle situations differently.
Businesses go through transitions as well when they expand or downsize, implement new software, launching new products and even when they hire someone new. My focus though today isn’t on the business side. I am currently going through several transitions at once and it has been really overwhelming to make it through and to figure out the best way to survive the changes. I am finally coming out of the chaos so I wanted to share with you all what the transitions are and how I am handling it.
The biggest change is having my Father-in-Law stay with us for a while. He moved here from Michigan after having a rough time with his health. Once we were aware that this was a probably happening and not just a mere thought I got to planning how to make space for him.
Our apartment is large for just the three of us and our two dogs and so I had taken advantage of the extra space in our main room and created two rooms for my office long ago. I knew the space would be a little on the tight side for someone to really be comfortable but my office seemed to be the best place for us to set him up with his own space.
I first had to make a plan for what to do with EVERYTHING in my office. I started by dividing the stuff into two categories. Business and craft. I do a ton of crafting and I had kept it all in my office because it was the best logical place for me to have it. Once I did that I decided to make room in the living room to house the craft stuff. I love to get artsy while binge watching my latest Netflix tv show so this was now the most logical place for me to put it. I have a craft table and stand so I moved all my craft stuff to the living room. It looks organized to the untrained eye but I am lost trying to find what I need so tomorrow I will tackle that project!
The business stuff was trickier. My computer has some retarded problem getting the WiFi signal in my bedroom so I had previously kept it out of my bedroom (even though I love to get on at night) so that I didn’t have to figure out why my computer doesn’t like my room but I no longer had a choice. The only logical place for me to put my desk, computer and all my business stuff was in our very large bedroom. Finding the space for it wasn’t hard but getting the WiFi back here was tough. We ended up finding a solution and it works wonderfully now!
With the space cleared out I did a really good cleaning around the house so that it was very fresh when he got here. Keep in mind that I had about 2 months to get everything done but didn’t move anything till the weekend before he got here in case things ended up differently. I keep a very tidy home anyways so it wasn’t difficult to do a deep cleaning.
From there it was waiting for him to get here and then when he got here it was 3 days of getting him situated with his vehicle and all that good stuff that needs to get done right away. I normally am VERY scheduled and this past week I lived without a schedule so that I could be available to do what needed to get done. Today I feel like we are on track to getting a nice routine figured out here where everyone is comfortable and has what they need.
These transitions take a toll on our physical spaces but they can do a number on us mentally as well. I am a walking routine without a schedule. I do certain things on certain days but I do not always do them at the same time each day. l am incredibly anxious in general and making major changes really sets my anxiety off and no matter how much time I have to prepare and change habits that would be inconsiderate (walking around in my underwear at night when I can’t sleep and need a drink of water) there is a major toll that is taken on us when the change is finally happening.
I would like to think that I was really prepared to be done with school for now, change directions a bit in my professional career, add a member and his k9 companion to our coop and deal with the crushing financial obligations of life but I wasn’t totally prepared. I didn’t loose my mind but I did loose some hair…lol. I didn’t expect to MISS school but my education is SO important to me that it’s hard not to be striving for something in this area. I didn’t expect to feel like I was loosing my business because I didn’t have the time to sit at my computer long enough to write an email let alone market my business, keep up with social media, blog, and other stuff, but I did. I didn’t expect to be annoyed that I have to put pants on to leave my room in the middle of the night but I do…lol…All things that in my overwhelmed state seems so hard to handle.
Now that the dust is settling and I have recovered physically from the many physical/mental demands of moving someone I have discovered my time again and I am getting back on track and have several educational courses on my list! I am feeling more like myself and I didn’t even get mad at my pants last night when I put them on!! I am hoping to deal with my imposter syndrome next as that is my biggest challenge now that all the major transitions I was experiencing are handled.
If you are experiencing a life transition and feel overwhelmed and not sure what to do, it’s ok. You are not alone and you do not have to make these transitions alone. I have a certificate from NAPO for dealing specifically for life transitions. I can help you make adjustments to your home and any other areas of your life that are effected by the changes that are happening. I understand the up’s and down’s that happen and I am confident that I can help you get through it! Fill out my contact form for a free consultation to discuss your life transitions and how I can help you!!